Funerals and Celebrations of Life

Planning a funeral

The practicalities that follow the death of a loved one can feel overwhelming. But you don’t have to face them alone. Your funeral director will guide you through the practical considerations, and your celebrant will help you create a meaningful and memorable service. Whether you have a vision for the funeral, or just want someone to steer you through the process, you’re in the right place. 

Types of ceremony

Cremation

The most common type of funeral in the UK is cremation with a service held at the crematorium. It is also possible to have a direct cremation (without attendees or a ceremony) followed by a celebration of life at a later date. This may be accompanied by an ashes scattering or interment.

 

Burial

Burials are usually comprised of two parts:  a ceremony at a primary location (e.g. a chapel) followed by a graveside committal at a graveyard or natural burial ground. If you’re interested in a green funeral, I can share ideas and recommend suppliers.

Personalisation

With an independent celebrant, it is possible to personalise all elements of a funeral or memorial. We can weave in a whole host of personal touches, from cultural rituals and symbolic acts to special readings and songs. The service can be religious, secular, or a combination of both. And, with a celebration of life, we can really go all out and make it an event to remember. 

 

I love creative and alternative celebrations of life, so don’t worry if your ideas are a bit unconventional. After all, you’re tailoring this ceremony to your person, not trying to squeeze them into a set piece. 

Working together

I offer two ways of working together. The first is the “traditional” approach, which happens when a loved one dies and you are planning their funeral. In this case, your funeral director may appoint me as your celebrant and I will get in touch with you to arrange a time to talk. You can also appoint me yourself and let the funeral director know you have chosen your own celebrant. Either way, the process from this point would usually go as follows:  

  1. We have a conversation. Ideally in person but we can also meet virtually. You tell me about your loved one, and I listen and ask a few questions.
  2. We devise an order of service, as this will need to be finalised and printed. I can help you select any readings, music or symbolic gestures you may wish to include.
  3. I go away and write a funeral ceremony crafted around your person, with their stories, personality, and the tone you want (whether that’s reflective, celebratory, funny, or a mix).
  4. You read the draft and provide your feedback. We revise the service until it feels right. If you are writing your own eulogy or tribute, I can support you with that, too.
  5. On the day of the funeral, I arrive early to greet you and run through any questions or concerns. Then I officiate the service with sensitivity and care. My job is to hold the space so that you and your guests can focus on being present.
Increasingly, however, people are planning ahead, working with a celebrant while they are still alive to create their own funeral. Not only does this give you a say in how your life is celebrated, but it also allows your loved ones to focus on saying goodbye when the time comes rather than trying to get it right while also trying to process their own grief. For more information on my funeral ceremony planning service, get in touch.

Why words matter

Funerals are one of those times in life when words really count. A good funeral ceremony can bring comfort, laughter and tears. A bad one can feel like a missed opportunity to truly honour someone. As a celebrant, my job is to a picture of a real person, not a saint or a stereotype. Together, we will find the right words to celebrate your loved one.

Practical details and pricing

I’m based in Greater Manchester and available for services in the surrounding areas, including Cheshire. I’m also happy to discuss travel further afield if needed. I charge £240 per funeral service. Like most celebrants, I do not charge for ceremonies for babies and infants.

If you have any questions, please get in touch by emailing [email protected]. You can also give me a call on 07738356038.